Emily B’s Pattern: From Fabolous to Kountry Wayne—Why She Keeps Choosing the Wrong Men

Emily Bustamante, known as Emily B, has built much of her public persona around patience and endurance in relationships. For years, she was the quiet stylist who stood by rapper Fabolous through repeated cheating scandals, public humiliation, and even violence.

Despite carrying his three children, Emily was often treated as invisible, their relationship never fully acknowledged by Fabolous in public. After enduring almost two decades of emotional neglect and abuse, fans hoped Emily would finally choose herself when she left him.

But when Emily started dating comedian Kountry Wayne—himself a father of ten children by five women—many questioned whether she was repeating an old, destructive pattern.

While Fabolous was cold and emotionally unavailable, Wayne brought a different kind of chaos: flashy, loud, and juggling multiple relationships and baby mama dramas. To outsiders, it looked like Emily was trading one form of dysfunction for another.

Emily first met Fabolous in 2002, and after moving to New York with her daughter to be with him, their relationship became a constant cycle of breakups, reconciliations, and public scandals.

In 2018, Fabolous was accused of physically assaulting Emily, reportedly knocking out her front teeth after a heated argument. Despite the violence and public fallout—including leaked footage of a terrifying confrontation—Emily stood by him, continuing to wear her ring and pose for family photos. Even after Fabolous took a plea deal to avoid jail time, Emily welcomed their third child, seemingly hoping to repair what was broken.

This cycle, experts say, is rooted in the psychology of trauma and repetition compulsion: people unconsciously seek out familiar patterns, even painful ones, in hopes of finally “winning” the love they were previously denied.

For Emily, whose self-worth was eroded by years of neglect, even chaotic affection can feel like a chance at redemption.

Enter Kountry Wayne, a man whose life is a whirlwind of children, exes, and public attention. Unlike Fabolous, Wayne is expressive and enjoys being seen—a quality that could feel intoxicating for someone who spent years hidden.

But a man with ten kids and multiple households cannot offer the kind of emotional availability or stability Emily deserves. His attention is divided, his finances spread thin, and his capacity for real intimacy is questionable.

For Emily, the appeal may lie in the hope of being “the one” in a sea of distractions—a dangerous illusion born from years of accepting crumbs and calling it love. Scarcity psychology teaches women to shrink their needs, to believe that any affection is better than none, and to equate endurance with worthiness.

Ultimately, Emily’s pattern is not random. It’s a subconscious reenactment of old wounds—a quest to prove she is worthy of being chosen. Until she learns to value herself without needing external validation, she will continue mistaking visibility for love and chaos for chemistry. True healing will come not from being someone’s option, but from choosing herself—completely and unapologetically.